Tag Archives: advice

30 Things You Need To Stop Doing

From Amazing Facts Undefined.  I found the advice fairly good, in that most of it is “common sense,” all too uncommon. However, the instructive tone of addressing it to “you” is a bit of a turn-off. I wonder if the author takes his or her own advice?

Invest in Life Experiences

From Medium:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.” — Mark Twain

10 Ways To Share Your Creativity and Get Discovered

Lessons from the book, Show Your Work, by Austin Kleon.

Show Your Work! is a book for people who hate the very idea of self-promotion. It’s the followup to my New York Times bestseller, Steal Like An Artist — if Steal was a book about how to be more creative by stealing influence from others, Show is a book about how to influence others by letting them steal from you.

6 hostage negotiation techniques that will get you what you want

Kind of a useful read from Barking Up The Wrong Tree—an excerpt:

The Behavioral Change Stairway Model was developed by the FBI’s hostage negotiation unit, and it shows the 5 steps to getting someone else to see your point of view and change what they’re doing.

It’s not something that only works with barricaded criminals wielding assault rifles — it applies to most any form of disagreement.

There are five steps:

  1. Active Listening: Listen to their side and make them aware you’re listening.
  2. Empathy: You get an understanding of where they’re coming from and how they feel.
  3. Rapport: Empathy is what you feel. Rapport is when they feel it back. They start to trust you.
  4. Influence: Now that they trust you, you’ve earned the right to work on problem solving with them and recommend a course of action.
  5. Behavioral Change: They act. (And maybe come out with their hands up.)

The problem is, you’re probably screwing it up.

Read the whole thing at the above link.

How to Write a Book In Your Spare Time

From Expert Enough—just enough to be dangerous:

Many people say they would like to write a book.  That statement is usually in the form of “I have this great book idea”, “I’ve always wanted to write a novel” or “I will write it when I have more time.”

I used to say things like that.  I kept promising myself that I would write a book someday.  Then I realized something important.

There are seven days in a week, but someday isn’t one of them.

 

Read These Seven Books, and You’ll be a Better Writer

So says Donald Miller:

I used to play golf but I wasn’t very good. I rented a DVD, though, that taught me a better way to swing, and after watching it a few times and spending an hour or so practicing, I knocked ten strokes off my game. I can’t believe how much time I wasted when a simple DVD saved me years of frustration. I’d say something similar is true in my writing career. If you read these books, your writing will improve to the point people who read your work will begin to comment on how well you write. Sometimes the difference between an okay writer and a great writer is simple. I’ve read quite a few books on writing and here is, in my opinion, the collection every writer should have in their library.

Read the list at the above link. I’ve only read one of his recommended books, although I’m familiar with the others. Maybe that’s my problem.

The Ultimate Cheat Sheet For Starting And Running A Business

From James Altucher. I like his opening remarks:

No joke. This is going be a bullet FAQ on starting a business. If  you’re a lawyer, feel free to disagree with me so you can charge someone  your BS fees to give the same advice.

If you can think of anything to add, please do so. I might be missing  things. If you want to argue with me, feel free. I might be wrong on any  of the items below.

There are many types of business. Depending on your business, some of  these won’t apply. All of these questions come from questions I’ve been  asked.

The rules are: I’m going to give no explanations. Just listen to me.